tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3006454596735505373.post282960000063367076..comments2023-10-29T05:29:04.132-05:00Comments on Unwritten: Friday Confessionals: Wednesday EditionHeatherhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13620286246484408761noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3006454596735505373.post-12075652789059151562009-12-17T20:18:11.559-06:002009-12-17T20:18:11.559-06:00Marriage?? Are you kidding me?? I'm freaking...Marriage?? Are you kidding me?? I'm freaking out about the possibility that he might want to move in here some day. I might have a heart attack if we discuss marriage. No, it was the people at work who were joking around with me saying I was next that I was talking about. Although I did make certian that he knew they were joking with me as in isn't that funny... that would never happen right?? Just in case there was some Christmas plan I was unaware of. I don't want to be the girl who has to say no. :-)Heatherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01879753863902363299noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3006454596735505373.post-18508035342934639012009-12-17T09:02:35.150-06:002009-12-17T09:02:35.150-06:00I think you are getting a little ahead of yourself...I think you are getting a little ahead of yourself. Marriage? You haven't even been divorced a year. Calm down and enjoy being in the relationship!LivingLifeBackwardshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03760697602863688141noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3006454596735505373.post-24510284968707739312009-12-17T06:39:06.465-06:002009-12-17T06:39:06.465-06:00NOT....
You can NOT predict, plan, or control the...NOT....<br /><br />You can NOT predict, plan, or control the future. All you can do is enjoy today.Jessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01291377007084535060noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3006454596735505373.post-45592612625813225262009-12-17T06:38:01.403-06:002009-12-17T06:38:01.403-06:00To go further with what anonymous said....Control ...To go further with what anonymous said....Control is not that attractive to a mate either. <br /><br />I am not 100% convinced that J is the sole reason you are a controlling person by nature. Although I don't think he helped it any. <br /><br />I will loan my prayer to you everytime I feel out of control...<br /><br />"God...give me peace!"<br /><br />Sounds silly but when I have been spinning; I say it and it really does calm me down. <br /><br />You can predict, plan or control the future. All you can do is enjoy today!Jessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01291377007084535060noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3006454596735505373.post-42172391341857855162009-12-16T21:40:02.662-06:002009-12-16T21:40:02.662-06:00I was reading about affairs. I read from a reputab...I was reading about affairs. I read from a reputable source, that the victim of an affair, might take as long as an affair lasted, to get through it. Not over it, but through it. If an affair lasted 2 years, it might take 2 years for the cheated on party, to start to feel a little safe again. I thought that made sense until I thought about a one night stand LOL. I doubt a husband or wife, of a one night stand cheating spouse would get through that in a day! However,,,,,,,,,,,you have had years and years to learn/live your bad experience and behaviours. How many years of your life were you programmed to worry? control? protect? Maybe it won't take that many years to heal, but dang I bet it takes a long while to unlearn those tendencies. I think M will help you learn it. I rather suspect he really loves you, respects what you've been through and still go through, and he will be patient. Paranoia isn't that attractive to a mate. But love is,,,,,,,,,,,I'm proud of your achievements.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3006454596735505373.post-40818746187024720382009-12-16T15:28:56.312-06:002009-12-16T15:28:56.312-06:00You will not know if you are *better* until you ar...You will not know if you are *better* until you are put in the situation... and you will not be able to correct yourself until then either. Life is trial and error and so are relationships. No one is perfect, no relationship is perfect and for you to expect that of yourself is unrealistic. Just be yourself. M seems to love you for you... and if he is going to be a part of your life he will learn to work through your flaws and you his.Bird's Eye View Photographyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08813489889625737678noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3006454596735505373.post-18087872849632813452009-12-16T15:18:24.557-06:002009-12-16T15:18:24.557-06:00I think anyone in your situation would have all th...I think anyone in your situation would have all the fears you have. Anytime you introduce your children to a new person, you pray that you are not making a mistake. Your control issue might never ever rise with M because he is not Jake. He hasnt given you any reason not to trust him, so you do. You are not the insecure person you were before. You don't have to worry about him being out with the wrong people, doing the wrong things, or stealing money from you to score. I guess what I am trying to say, is you don't have to control him, so maybe you won't ever try.Breenoreply@blogger.com