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I signed the papers agreeing to a tubal during a p...

2012-06-01T08:27:00.529-05:00

I signed the papers agreeing to a tubal during a planned c-section like KimN. Even though my husband was in the intake room with me, the nurse focused all attention and questions on me. Are you sure this is your choice and what you want? We'd discussed it and seeing as we had an 8 year old and a 5 year old headed to school and me back to work, when surprised by THIS pregnancy, we were comfortably sure three was going to be the charm. I felt a twinge of sadness signing. I felt a world of regret holding our third child in the room the following days. Looking back it's normal. I think you grieve the inability to conceive again. Something about my "womanliness"(is that a word)? seem to go missing. No more pregnancy scares, no more,,,oh gosh I'm 3 days late I hope we were careful enough!!! It felt like a bit of my youth went as well. THAT passed. The following sleepless nights. Sleep deprivation is my worst pregnancy/new mommy symptom. I am miserable to be around in that stage, and I had two older children and a husband that had to put up with me. The staying home another 5 years reminded me that yes it was the right decision to be finished. I was lucky enough to stay home with all three, but that essentially took me out of the working world for 17 years. I wasn't looking to add another 5 years to that total with a 4th child. I guess the summary of all this rambling is,,,,you're making a clear headed decision now. You may feel lots of emotions and some regret in your post-birth hormonal flux. You will come around and settle into the thoughtful decision you and Jim made before the new baby. Two is good guys. Three is fabulous too, but two is just aweseome. And think! You were blessed enough to get one of each!
I am so happy for you guys and congratulations!

I felt the same way. As you probably know, I had ...

2012-05-31T13:36:34.293-05:00

I felt the same way. As you probably know, I had THE WORST pregnancies. I was so miserable the whole time and the depression on top of it (which I only get while pregnant) made everything 1000X worse. We had so many complications too, both with the baby and me. After Eden I had my tubes tied. I was soooooooo certain that we were done, I could never do it again. Guess what? I regret it. I would love to have another. Eden is my only "normal" experience and it makes me want another. I could do "normal" again even with a difficult pregnancy. That being said, I'm not guaranteed normal. Also, I'm not sure I want another 3 or 7 year old. Babies are great...until they grow up and start talking back to you. My only advice is this...wait a year before you or Jim do anything permanent just to be sure. I had my tubes tied during the c-section, I wish we would have waited though.

LOL on Jim's comment to Zack. Awww... Thinking...

2012-05-31T08:19:26.434-05:00

LOL on Jim's comment to Zack. Awww... Thinking of you all ! ((((hugs)))

I don't know what you've researched for br...

2012-05-23T23:07:34.332-05:00

I don't know what you've researched for breast pumps, but I used an ameda brand pump for 2.5 kids and LOVED it. It was one that you could do both sides at the same time and operated both on batteries or an outlet. Found it brand new & sealed in the box on a popular auction website for about $150. And it came with the same warranty that it would come with through a regular store. It was used multiple times daily for about 6 months to a year with my three youngest kids. So, if you're looking at a hospital grade one, I'm here to say you don't necessarily have to get a $300 pump to get a good one.
Good luck with the sale and Congrats!!

I don't know what you've researched for br...

2012-05-23T23:07:33.863-05:00

Its, "weather beacon flashing day or night, p...

2012-05-17T23:11:52.080-05:00

Its, "weather beacon flashing day or night, precipitation is In site"

Its, "weather beacon flashing day or night, p...

2012-05-17T23:11:24.679-05:00

Its, "weather beacon flashing day or night, precipitation is In site"

I think you should be fine. They could never tell...

2012-05-16T09:28:15.952-05:00

I think you should be fine.

They could never tell with Mack, but she was an uncooperative little thing. Multiple ultrasounds, and they could never get a good peak.

Then again, it was nearly 20 years ago, so ultrasound has gotten much better than it was then. (That makes me sound really freaking old, doesn't it?)

So maybe you keep a few of your favorite boy outfi...

2012-05-15T22:31:04.841-05:00

So maybe you keep a few of your favorite boy outfits just in case?

LOL at Jennifer. Not to make you nuts but my neig...

2012-05-15T20:41:28.800-05:00

LOL at Jennifer.
Not to make you nuts but my neighbor was expecting a girl, ultrasounds every two weeks the last two months, did the room in Beatrix Potter pink and when the baby came out the dad AND the doctor both said "Oh my god" and my friend thought there was something wrong with their little girl. Well, she did have a penis that had been tucked up toward "her" tummy and what they thought were girl parts, were actually their sons ass crack. Just sayin ;-)

That sound you just heard....it was a big sigh of ...

2012-05-15T20:38:06.100-05:00

That sound you just heard....it was a big sigh of relief from way over here :-)

I checked my blogger list not too long ago and abo...

2012-05-15T20:37:18.494-05:00

I checked my blogger list not too long ago and about 90% of the ones I used to read are no longer blogging. In a weird way I miss some of them because in another weird way I felt oddly connected to their lives and would love to know whats been happening with them.

In the grand scheme of things, even if the baby ca...

2012-05-15T13:43:29.102-05:00

In the grand scheme of things, even if the baby came out a boy it's not as if he would be naked because you got rid of the boy things :-) You would simply have another garage sale to sell your girl things and go buy boy things at someone else's garage sale!

I used a reader for a while, but I just don't ...

2012-05-14T09:51:18.816-05:00

I used a reader for a while, but I just don't care for it.

I have a long list of favorites, that I just go through daily.

When someone disappears that I really like, I have held on to them just in case, but sometimes they are just done.

I just recently saw someone update their blog they...

2012-05-11T21:51:05.728-05:00

I just recently saw someone update their blog they hadn't posted in for almost 3 years. I keep them because what harm is there to do so?

I also sort my reads by labels like IF or adoption or just plain ole' parenting or crafts or whatever.

Actually, I only decide to delete something if the updates they DO have no longer interest me.

I think it's not about how long necessarily as...

2012-05-11T20:51:27.330-05:00

I think it's not about how long necessarily as much as it is about how badly you would want to read what they might post some day. If you don't think you will miss it than delete. If you think you might than safe.

It's not so much how long I'm willing to l...

2012-05-11T16:29:19.937-05:00

It's not so much how long I'm willing to leave an un-updated blog in my reader in case they'll post. It's more about how long I'll go between reader de-cluttering sessions! I don't particularly have a schedule for it, but every once in awhile (usually when I'm feeling overwhelmed by keeping up with too much information), I'll be seized by the urge to purge. And I'll go through every single feed in my reader and consider whether to keep them or unsubscribe.

If I find one that I know hasn't updated in a really long time when that happens, I don't even spend a second thinking about it. I unsubscribe immediately. I also unsubscribe from any feeds that I often find myself ignoring or procrastinating on reading. If it's become a chore to read, then I don't need to subscribe to it.

I leave all mine because every once in a while som...

2012-05-11T14:45:27.489-05:00

I leave all mine because every once in a while someone will crawl out of hiding!

Congratulations to all of you! The finalization ...

2012-05-10T16:30:55.115-05:00

Congratulations to all of you!

The finalization of adoption is just the best feeling all the way around.

Jim is an offical Daddy twice in one year!

HOOOOOOOOOORRRRRAAAAAAAYYYYYYY!!!!!!!!

2012-05-10T15:18:00.689-05:00

HOOOOOOOOOORRRRRAAAAAAAYYYYYYY!!!!!!!!

This is just beautiful Heather. I am so happy for...

2012-05-07T14:52:00.381-05:00

This is just beautiful Heather. I am so happy for all of you.

32? Who the hell knows? I spent all 32 thinking I ...

2012-05-05T12:24:38.419-05:00

32? Who the hell knows? I spent all 32 thinking I was 33 or 34.

Jess

Yep -- Life is good! So happy for you! I cannot WA...

2012-05-04T15:44:29.700-05:00

Yep -- Life is good! So happy for you! I cannot WAIT to rub that belly this weekend... and really -- there is no stopping me... sorry!

I think you are right, looks like 32 is going to b...

2012-05-04T12:25:18.250-05:00

I think you are right, looks like 32 is going to be a great year for you! So many exciting things happening!

Will baby be joining you at Disney World? She will be a tiny princess!

I can see how this would just be exhausting. I h...

2012-04-30T14:03:22.850-05:00

I can see how this would just be exhausting.

I hope you got some much needed rest.