You're telling me he can't scale that gate? You're lucky, my middle son didn't just scale gates. At a year old he was literally ripping them down.... yes even the one's that were anchored into the walls.
As for the tent, I believe she's referring to the mesh tent you put on top of a crib to keep cats out.
Correct. It is called a crib tent. It is put up to keep the cats out of his bed. He had it on from the day he was born until that picture was taken. You can see it here...
*sigh* I had to do that when C-Man was only 19 months old. He climbed out all the time, head first! He is in the toddler bed with a half rail to keep him from falling out. Baby gates he climb.
That is where you are wrong Heather. It's not "his" loss. His meaning Zacks father. It's Zacks loss.
Zack can't choose to make his biological father be a dad. Zack can't: throw ball with himself, take himself fishing, teach himself to shave, tuck himself in, read himself a story. Sure technically he can do these things for himself and by himself but he can't do them in place of a father. Nor can you do them in place of his father should he choose not to.
Sure... Zack looses out. What do I do about that? Right now he has strong male roll models in his life to help him when his dad can't/won't.
His dad is in his life right now but I know the life of an addict and whether he stays is only a decision he can make.
Until then, all I can do is make sure he has good male roll models and let him know he is loved very deeply by all the people in his life who do make an effort.
Abandoned
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I didn't mean for this space to go dark... but it sort of has. The new blog
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yay! What a big boy! Did he roll out? Seriously... my kids are movers and shakers when they sleep!
What the heck is a tent? In his crib? I have 3 kids and I don't have any idea what the heck you're talking about!
You're telling me he can't scale that gate? You're lucky, my middle son didn't just scale gates. At a year old he was literally ripping them down.... yes even the one's that were anchored into the walls.
As for the tent, I believe she's referring to the mesh tent you put on top of a crib to keep cats out.
Correct. It is called a crib tent. It is put up to keep the cats out of his bed. He had it on from the day he was born until that picture was taken. You can see it here...
http://www.walmart.com/catalog/product.do?product_id=6372421
Ah I c. I don't have cats so that makes sense why I had no clue!
It's those phases and steps I would think an absent parent parent would miss.
*sigh* I had to do that when C-Man was only 19 months old. He climbed out all the time, head first! He is in the toddler bed with a half rail to keep him from falling out. Baby gates he climb.
I would like to make a comment to the anonymous commenter but it actually physically hurts my heart to even think about writing it.
The sum total of all he has missed is wrapped up in all the little moments, not just the big ones.
There are a million every day moments that I can not imagine not seeing that I'm guessing he has no idea he is missing.
For 8 weeks Zack has visited there. Yet he has no bed, no place to call his own.
He could have these moments if he wanted them. Yet he chooses not to.
In the end, I suppose that is his loss. One I will never understand signing up for.
Just b/c they are a sperm or egg donor does not make someone a "parent". And blood does not make someone family. It makes them a relative!
That is where you are wrong Heather. It's not "his" loss. His meaning Zacks father. It's Zacks loss.
Zack can't choose to make his biological father be a dad. Zack can't: throw ball with himself, take himself fishing, teach himself to shave, tuck himself in, read himself a story. Sure technically he can do these things for himself and by himself but he can't do them in place of a father. Nor can you do them in place of his father should he choose not to.
The person who picks up the biggest tab is Zack.
Sure... Zack looses out. What do I do about that? Right now he has strong male roll models in his life to help him when his dad can't/won't.
His dad is in his life right now but I know the life of an addict and whether he stays is only a decision he can make.
Until then, all I can do is make sure he has good male roll models and let him know he is loved very deeply by all the people in his life who do make an effort.
Any time I review something like that in my mind - like the progression of his beds - it makes me a little teary. They just change so fast.
I just noticed 3 out of the 4 pictures you displayed of Spike in his crib have that "insanely" expensive crib sheet on it.
HA...Now who wished they had insanely expensive sheets like that in a King size?
They don't....I checked! :)
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