Saturday, February 28, 2009

What's My Status?

This morning I was looking at my facebook profile and decided I wanted to update it a bit. So I got to the question about relationship status and was a little stumped.

Where's the button for:

For the second time in two months I had to ask my husband to leave our house after I found that he had been drinking continuing to smoke pot and he had not come home before midnight for three nights in a row and now he's moving into this little tiny apartment and I never knew it was possible to be this scared and relieved all at the same time.

In the end I picked "It's Complicated."

I think that's an understatement....


Aunt Becky said...


Holler if you need to talk. I'm around. And I'm sorry.

Laura said...

Sending you hugs and lots of strength. I'm sorry things are rough right now.

Mike said...

Good for you!!! For sticking to your guns and doing what you feel is right! I am proud of you (and praying this all works out in the end for you and Zack!)

:-) AL

Creative Genius? said...

Whoops - that last comment was from me (not my hubbie mike LOL)

Lauren said...

Oh Heather, I am so sorry. But I am proud of you for sticking to your guns. I knew you could do it. This will either open his eyes or you will realize what you need to do. I hope that he will figure things out. You and Zack will be in my prayers

Jennifer said...

I can only speak from my personal experience but the relief will only grow with each passing day.

As hard as it is, you have done the right thing.

We all have choices in our lives. You have made one that puts your son first. Jake made one that put himself first. It is because he is an addict.

He will be skilled at manipulating your emotions. It helps to visualize when negotiating with an addict that they have a big "D" on their forehead. They are not bad people but they have a Disease. A Disease that you want to avoid like the plague. A big old "D" on their forehead!

You will have moments of doubt. Moments when you think, "Was it really as bad as this?"

What I told people when it happened in my life was, "Yeah. This is hard. And just imagine how bad it must have REALLY been for me to have made this decision".

The other thing I found that made it easier because it is SO hard to say words like "divorce" or "separated" or "moved out" is that I would tell people, "We aren't together anymore." People know what you mean and it just feels a little less hard to say.

Erin said...

I'm glad for you and Zack, though I know it's really scary. It sounds like it's the best thing for you two.

Danette said...

Heather, I am here if you need me & I am very proud of you. I will contiue to lift you up in prayer & I am only a phone call away.

Meghan said...

I need a button similar to that one : )

kbreints said...

I too am proud of you for making those tough decisions. I sorry that you have to make them... but know that you are doing what is right for you and your son. YOU ARE... don't doubt yourself.

Amanda said...

So sorry. :(